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Chapter Seventeen

Personal development coaching shows us a path for succeeding even when we fail. We call this 'failing forward'.

What is defeat?
Nothing but education; nothing but the first steps to something better.

One of the first lessons in life is to learn how to get victory out of defeat. It takes courage and character, when mortified and embarrassed by a humiliating defeat, to seek out the lessons for future greatness.

"Failure is a test of the human spirit; a test of persistence and of an iron will."

Personal development coaching experts encourage us to watch with great interest the first failing of a young man or woman. The response they give can become the theme of their life; the measure of their success-power.

The mere fact the person failed is not what should interest you the most; but how did he or she take the defeat? Was he encouraged? Did she pull back never to take so bold a step again? Did he quickly conclude that he wasn’t made for the challenge, and immediately change directions to dabble in another area? Or did he pick himself up and go at it again with re-doubled determination that knows no defeat?

"To know how to wring victory from our defeats, and make stepping-stones of our stumbling-blocks, is the secret to success."
- Marden

Humphry Davy said, “I thank God I was not made of material too easily manipulated, for the most important of my discoveries have been suggested to me by my failures.”

There is something truly grand and inspiring in a person who fails wholly after giving it his very best, and then quickly goes at it once again with a renewed vigor and persistence. No one should fear for the person who will not be disheartened or discouraged at failing. This is a common theme is most every executive coaching program worthy of your time and interest.

No man or woman is a failure who instinctively stands upright and true to the passion that fills their heart. Our only true failing is in not being true to the best that is in us.

The one who has never failed, has never even half succeeded. The danger is not in a fall, but failing to rise.

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling,
but in rising every time we fall."

- Goldsmith

Beware, uninterrupted successes at the beginning of a career can be dangerous. Many have become ruined by over-confidence that is born of their first sequential victories.

All the great work in the world has been accomplished by courage, and the world’s greatest victories have been born out of defeat. Every blessing that we enjoy – personal security, individual liberty, and constitutional freedom – has been obtained through long hardships and hard-fought battles of will and determination.

"Failure either crushes a life, or solidifies it."

“Failure is, in a real sense,” says Keats, “the highway to success, in as much as every discovery of what is false leads us to seek earnestly after what is true, and every fresh experience points out some form of error which we shall afterward forever avoid.”

The best personal development coaching advice given is not be afraid of failing. You are never closer to victory as when defeated. When you take what you’ve learned from your defeat, adjust yourself according, and then go back after your goal – success will inevitably be yours. It may take a few attempts, but ultimately the one who sticks to it will win the prize.

Personal Development Coaching Activities

  1. Describe an instance in your life when you have failed at something you truly tried hard to achieve. Explain why it meant so much to you and how you felt by not achieving your goal.

  2. Explain what your response to tough situations historically been in your life? Are you satisfied with this response and do you feel it serves you well? Do you wish to improve in this area of your life?

  3. Given what you know now from the above personal growth coaching program, how might you respond differently the next time you are facing a potential failure?

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