Personal Development Coaching Course
THE VICTORY IN DEFEAT
Personal development coaching shows us a path for succeeding even when we fail. Great leaders are also great failures - meaning, they know how to fail successfully. They understand the power in 'failing forward'.
Successful leaders realize that in order to succeed, one must be willing to fail. However, when they fail they do not crumble from the experience. Rather, they take that defeat, and chalk it up to nothing more than education; nothing but the first steps to something greater in their journey toward achieving their goal.
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One of the first lessons in life is to learn how to get victory out of
defeat. It takes courage and character, when mortified and embarrassed
by a humiliating defeat, to seek out the lessons for future greatness.
Observant leaders watch with
great interest the first failing of a young man or woman. The response
they give can become the theme of their life. It's the leader's job, through one-on-one personal development coaching, to guide the young employee and teach them how to embrace their first failure as a stepping stone toward their next great achievement.
The mere fact the person failed is not what should interest you the
most; but how did he or she take the defeat? Was he encouraged? Did she
pull back never to take so bold a step again? Did he quickly conclude
that he wasn’t made with the right stuff to take on the challenge, and immediately change directions
to dabble in another area? Or did he pick himself up and go at it
again with re-doubled determination that knows no defeat?
Once you know how to wring victory from your defeats, and make stepping-stones of your stumbling-blocks, you've gained a powerful tool that will be the secret to your future success.
"Failure is a test of the human spirit; a test of persistence and of an iron will."
Humphry Davy said, “I thank God I was not made of material too easily manipulated, for the most important of my discoveries have been suggested to me by my failures.”
There is something truly grand and inspiring in a person who fails wholly after giving it his very best, and then quickly goes at it once again with a renewed vigor and persistence.
No one should fear for the person who will not be disheartened or discouraged at failing. These individuals maintain their eyes of the prize and they refuse to quit. They see a failure as a bump in the road, not an indestructible wall to their success. Leaders must teach team members to define failure in this way during personal development coaching sessions in order to prepare them for the real world.
No man or woman is a failure who instinctively stands upright and
true to the passion that fills their heart. Our only true failing is in quitting and not being true to the best that is in us. The one who has never failed, has never even half succeeded. The danger is not in a fall but in failing to rise.
Beware, uninterrupted successes at the beginning of a career can be
dangerous. Many have become ruined by over-confidence that is born of
their first sequential victories.
All the great work in the world has been accomplished by courage, and
the world’s greatest victories have been born out of defeat. Every
blessing that we enjoy – personal security, individual liberty, and
constitutional freedom – has been obtained through long hardships and
hard-fought battles of will and determination.
"Failure either crushes a life or solidifies it."
“Failure is, in a real sense,” says Keats, “the highway to success,
in as much as every discovery of what is false leads us to seek
earnestly after what is true, and every fresh experience points out some
form of error which we shall afterward forever avoid.”
During personal development coaching sessions leaders should routinely discuss the importance of not being afraid
of failing. Explain to your associates that you are never closer to victory as when initially defeated. When you
take what you’ve learned from your defeat, adjust yourself according,
and then go back after your goal – success will inevitably be yours.
Any goal worth achieving will have its challenges. To achieve the goal may take a few attempts, but ultimately the one who sticks will it will experience the rewards of victory.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling,
but in rising every time we fall."
Personal Development Coaching Activities
Complete the following exercises...
- Describe an instance in your life when you have failed at
something you truly tried hard to achieve. Explain why it meant so much
to you and how you felt by not achieving your goal.
- Explain how you responded to the above failure. Are you satisfied with this response and do you feel it
serves you well? Do you wish to improve in this area of your life?
- Given what you know now from the above chapter on Victory in Defeat, how will you define failure going forward, and how might you respond differently the next time you are facing a
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